People find many ways to express sympathy, but nothing beats a handwritten sympathy card in the moment of deep grief, during, and after.
However, words seem not to flow when writing a sympathy message. In such a delicate moment, you want to be considerate of the words you use. Still, most people don’t know how to offer brief and simple condolences.
Let’s see how to do it correctly below;
Why Should You Send A Sympathy Card?
Perhaps, texting a short condolence message would do? No!
Well, a message would be part of the package. This means that even when you want to send the message, you also write a sympathy card. Why so?
Sending a text takes seconds to deliver, and even most people in such situations don’t have the time to go through their phones. Furthermore, sending a message doesn’t express the precise amount of care you would want.
Conversely, carefully choosing and writing a sympathy card shows a lot about the sender’s feelings to the grieving people. Usually, you will find most homes of the deceased displaying these cards even long after the burial. This way, the cards act as a physical reminder of the love and support from each member.
Additionally, the grief-stricken loved ones have the chance to read and re-read the sympathy cards anytime they need the love and support from people. This act of love remains appreciated longer and more significantly in this digital era.
Who Should You Address In The Sympathy Card?
Should you address the card to a specific person or the whole family?
If the deceased were someone you knew very well, it would be best to address the sympathy card to the closest relative, for example, a spouse or child. However, write to the family if you didn’t know the deceased in person but through a loved one. Still, if it’s your friend that is grieving, write the card to them.
Remember that you can still add ‘and family’ when ending the greeting if you wish.
In case of the death of a spouse, you should address the sympathy card with the correct title. So, write “Mr” or “Mrs” appropriately. Besides, the individual remains married even though the partner is no longer alive and would appreciate it if people still address them.
Short Condolence Messages
When writing a sympathy card, remember that short and basic messages make a better impact. However, if you didn’t know or weren’t close to the deceased, a brief message would be perfect.
Alternatively, you can always send your card by including a personalized message. Having a longer message in a sympathy card is not a wrong move, but be sure not to be insensitive and out of topic.
Moreover, while a short message is very acceptable for a sympathy card sent to someone you aren’t well-familiar with, consider that writing only “Dear Andrew, from Jane” isn’t quite enough. Usually, this type is likely to come across as detached or uncaring.
Remember, grief has a hard impact on most people. Therefore, aside from sending a sympathy card, it would be best to check on your grieving loved ones and offer any form of support, love, and care.